There was a moment - somewhere between folding laundry and feeling stuck in a loop of content I didn’t love - when I had to ask myself: “Is this really the life I’m meant to settle for?” Because deep down, I knew the answer was no.

I wasn’t born to shrink myself into routines that didn’t light me up, partnerships that didn’t value me, or goals that felt too small. And neither were you.

So I made a quiet but powerful decision: I decided to be too expensive for the life I was settling for. Not just in money - but in energy, time, love, effort, and vision.

Let me walk you through how that one mindset shift flipped everything in the best way - and how you can do the same, starting today.

1. I Elevated My Standards (And Stuck to Them)

You know how they say, "what you allow is what will continue"? Yeah. I stopped allowing things that felt like a 6/10 just because I was afraid a 10 wouldn’t come. Whether it was accepting low-effort work, undercharging, or saying yes to events I didn’t want to attend - I cut it out.

I started asking myself: Would the version of me living her dream life accept this? If the answer was no, I gracefully declined. My time and energy are luxury items now.

2. I Romanticised My Daily Life

Being too expensive meant I had to start acting like I was the prize, even in the tiniest moments. I didn’t wait for big milestones to feel worthy. I lit candles while journaling, wore perfume at home, made my morning coffee with intention, and treated solo walks like main-character movie scenes.

This taught my brain: My life is already beautiful. I’m already living it. And that belief? It’s magnetic.

3. I Set Boundaries Like a High-End Brand

Think of luxury brands - they’re not available to everyone. They’re intentional, selective, and unapologetic about their value. I realised I needed to do the same.

No more explaining or over-giving. No more emotionally discounting myself just to be liked. If someone didn’t align with where I was going, I wished them love - and moved on.

4. I Created Even When I Felt Invisible

Let’s be real - sometimes we show up, post, create, and it feels like no one’s watching. But I kept going. Even when my views dipped, when I felt discouraged, or when comparison crept in.

Why? Because I remembered: the woman I’m becoming doesn’t give up when it’s hard. She creates from vision, not validation. And every time I showed up for her, she showed up for me.

5. I Stepped Into Abundance Before It Arrived

This one was hard. Especially during the seasons when money was tight or the dream felt far away. But I started making decisions from the energy of “it’s already done.”

I’d ask myself, If I already had the opportunities, income, and lifestyle I wanted - how would I show up today? And then I’d do that.

Sometimes it meant investing in myself when it scared me. Sometimes it meant resting instead of hustling. But every time I acted from abundance, abundance mirrored it back.

Final Words (From One High-Value Soul to Another)

Choosing to be "too expensive" for the life you’ve outgrown isn’t about ego. It’s about self-respect.

You get to decide that the old patterns, the low standards, the fear-based decisions - they’re no longer your story. You’re not available for anything less than what lights your soul on fire.

So take the leap. Upgrade your standards. Become unavailable for anything that doesn’t match the life you’re manifesting.

The version of you that’s on the other side of this decision? She’s already celebrating you.

With love,
White Sand in the Sky

I Decided to Be Too Expensive for the Life I Was Settling For 💅🏽✨